5 Tips for dealing with guilt
By JOHN M. Gasohol, Psy.D.
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It's amazing how quickly the fault can kick in smaller, more insignificant things in our lives overcoming guilt.
Guilt is a sign of emotional warning that most people learn through their social overcoming guilt development of normal childhood. Its purpose is to let us know when we have done something wrong, to help us develop a better idea of word behavior and how we and other affections.
It invites us to reconsider our behavior so that we ended up not making the same mistake twice overcoming guilt.
How can we help against our guilt and accept them as they are important, but let them go more easily when they are not overcoming guilt?
1. Recognize the type of fault that you and purpose.
Blame it works better to help us grow and mature when our behavior was offensive or hurt others or ourselves. If we feel guilty for saying overcoming guilt something offensive to another person or to focus on our careers with a working week of 80 hours in our family, it's a warning sign with a purpose:
change your behavior or lose friends or family.
We can still choose to ignore our time fault but then we do it at our peril overcoming guilt. This is known as "healthy" or "appropriate" to blame because it serves a purpose to try to help redirect our moral compass or behavior.
The problem arises when our behavior is not something overcoming guilt that needs revision, it is not something that should be changed overcoming guilt.
For example, many new mothers feel sick to return to work part-time, fear, overcoming guilt can cause damage without normal development of your child before.
This is simply not the case in most instances, however overcoming guilt, and most children have a normal and healthy development, even when both parents work.
There is nothing wrong, however, still do. This is known as overcoming guilt "unhealthy" or "inappropriate" guilty that serves no rational.
overcoming guilt If you feel guilty about eating five bars of chocolate in a row, this is the way of trying to get the message to you about behavior you probably already recognize his brain is a little extreme..
Such behavior can be self-destructive and detrimental last resort for their health and wellbeing.
So the rational purpose of this guilt is simply to try to convince you to change this behavior overcoming guilt.
2. Make changes or changes sooner rather than later.
If his guilt is accurate and rational objective - for example, it is healthy guilt - taking action to resolve the problem behavior. While many of us are voracious consumers of self-punishment, guilt still weighs us as we try to move forward in life.overcoming guilt It's easy apologize to anyone we have offended by careless comment.
It's a little harder to recognize not only how his career 80 hours per week can be harmful to your family, but also change their working hours overcoming guilt (assuming you had legitimate reasons to work 80 hours a week reasons, in the first place).
Healthy guilt we have to do something different in order to repair the important relationships overcoming guilt that we (or our own self-esteem) said. (The purpose of unhealthy guilt, by contrast, is just to make us feel bad for some legitimate reason.)
Although sometimes we know the lesson of guilt trying to teach, to return again and again until that indeed have learned Lesson completely. It can be frustrating, but guilt seems to be how it works for most people overcoming guilt.
The sooner we "learn the lesson" - for example, to make peace, not work to engage in harmful behaviors even in the future, etc. overcoming guilt - The sooner the fault disappears.
If successful, it will never return to this again.
3. Accept that you have done something wrong, but progressing overcoming guilt.
If you have done something wrong or harmful, you have to accept that you can not change the past overcoming guilt. But you can have your behavior if and when appropriate. No apology or makeup for inappropriate behavior at the right time, but let it go.
We focus more to believe that we need to do something more, it will continue to disturb and interfere with our relationships with others overcoming guilt.
Guilt is usually very situational overcoming guilt. This means that we are entering a situation, we are doing something inappropriate or harmful, so we feel bad for a while
. Either the behavior was not as bad or time passes, and we feel less guilty. If we recognize the problem behavior and take action as soon as possible, we feel better about things (and so will the other person) and guilt be mitigated. Obsessed about it overcoming guilt, however, and do not take any...
compensatory behaviors (like apologizing or change their negative behavior) overcoming guilt keeps the bad feelings go. Accept and recognize inappropriate behavior, that his amendment, then go ahead.
4. Learn from our behavior.
The purpose of the blame is not to make us feel bad just for the sake of it. Guilt is trying to get our attention so we can learn overcoming guilt something from the experience. If we learn from our behavior, we will be less likely to do so again in the future.
If I said something insulting another overcoming guilt person accidentally, my fault said I should (a) an apology to the person and (b) think a little more before you open your mouth.
If his guilt is not trying to correct an error in truth he has done in his behavior (Beg, not unhealthy guilt), then there is a lot you need to learn. Instead of learning to change this behavior, a person may be trying to understand why a simple behavior most people do not feel guilty felt guilty overcoming guilt.
For example, I felt guilty for spending time playing a game during normal working hours. Since working for me, however, I do not care "normal working hours" but it's hard for me to change this state of mind after years of working for others.
5. Perfection does not exist in anyone.
Nobody is perfect, even our friends or family who seem to live a perfect and blameless life. Search perfection in any part of our life is a recipe for failure, because you can never achieve.
Everyone makes mistakes and many of us go through a path in our lives that can make us feel guilty later when we finally realize our error. The key, however, is to realize the mistake and accept that they are only human.
Do not engage in days, weeks or months of guilt or the ways of your self-esteem, because I should have known, they could have done differently, or would have been a perfect person. You're not, and neither do I. It's just life.
Guilt is one of those emotions we feel tells us something important. Note that each emotion, and certainly not any guilt, which is a rational purpose. Focus on the fault that causes poor relatives or friends.
And remember to be skeptical that the next time you feel guilty - is trying to teach you something rational and useful in their behavior, or is it just irrational emotional response to a overcoming guilt situation? The answer to this question will be your first step to help you deal with the guilt in the future.
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